Whether you’re a literal pro in the bedroom or are new to exploring the world of sexual pleasures, there’s no harm in brushing up on a few tips and tricks. While every partner is unique, if you are getting down & dirty with men, there are a few things you might want to know.
Enthusiasm
It can be nice to sit back and enjoy being a pillow princess, but guys want to be able to lay back and enjoy the attention too. Try adding a little enthusiasm to your sex life, whether it’s initiating the intimacy to start with or playing a more active part in it.
Additionally, while things like deepthroat are on nearly every man’s sexual bucket list, you don’t have to overcome your gag reflex to make him happy! An enthusiastic, messy, sloppy bj will definitely have him feeling like a porn star.
Dirty Talk
It doesn’t have to be crazy kinky but there are plenty of ways to use your words in the bedroom! If he’s doing something right, “yes, like that” or any other positive reinforcement will make him feel good and keep him on track to making you feel good too.
When he could be doing something better, take the opportunity to lock eyes and whisper “I want it like this,” and show him how you like it.
If there’s even a subtle power dynamic at play, putting on a pout and asking for things with a “please” is sure to make his heart skip a beat.
Of course, there is an infinite selection of phrases & pet names that can intensify things further and you can ask your partner what they want to hear in bed!
Kinks
There is an infinite number of kinks and fetishes, and across the years you are likely to hear plenty of unexpected ones! If a partner trusts you enough to disclose an unconventional bedroom request, then do your best to respect their honesty. If it’s something you aren’t open to, then let him know but thank him for his honesty. Communication doesn’t always result in compromise, but it’s important to make sure that everyone is comfortable talking about things.
At the end of the day, asking your partner directly is the easiest way to figure out what they are after. Don’t be afraid to make the first move or to let your wild side show, most guys love seeing you enjoy yourself. If you have your own kinky fantasies, you should tell him and be prepared to hear about his too! So next time things are getting steamy, go all in and show him how much you enjoy him, I promise he will appreciate it.
