Month: March 2024

At some point answering texts and calls, we hear the phrase “this might be weird, but…” The first time I heard someone say that, I braced myself for something extreme but after a while, I realised that the vast majority of requests are far more normal than clients realised. So, in an effort to destigmatise these things and put your mind at ease next time you reach out, here are some common “this might be weird, but…” requests!

“…do your ladies offer pegging?”

Absolutely! There are plenty of our ladies who offer pegging. The biggest hurdle when making a booking with pegging is giving us notice so that we can let the lady know to bring in her gear. Don’t stress if you are in a time crunch, though, we often have some toys available for sale at reception. 

“…what about golden showers?”

This request is way more common than most people realise! We will need some heads-up for this booking too of course, but it’s offered by plenty of playmates.

“…I don’t even want to have sex”

While we love getting steamy, we all need to slow down sometimes. Spending time alone with another person cuddling or even just talking is an under-rated way to recharge. Human contact is lovely, and any of our playmates would enjoy the chance to unwind with you.

“…I’m a virgin”

So were we at some point! Who better to explore intimacy with than a qualified sexpert! You don’t have to disclose this kind of info to anyone, but if you are nervous about getting it on, our playmates can slow things down and make sure you’re looked after.

“…I have this fantasy”

Chances are, we have heard it before and are more than happy to make it come true! If you are interested in fantasies, role-plays and BDSM bookings, it’s important to keep in mind that not every lady offers every service. Once it gets down to the nitty-gritty details, you will have to come in to have a chat with the lucky babe in person.

As long as you are respectful of us and our answers, we don’t mind what your request is! There’s no point keeping it a secret if we could make it come true!

Adult games are a great way to break the ice with someone new, or to spice things up in the bedroom! If you feel like getting creative next time you’re getting down and dirty, try out some of these games!

The effects of consuming pornography on an individual’s sex life can vary widely and are influenced by various factors, including the frequency and intensity of use, type of media, personal values, relationship dynamics, and individual differences. It’s important to note that research on this topic can be complex and sometimes contradictory, and different people may have different reactions. Here are some potential effects, both positive and negative, that have been discussed in the literature:

Potential Positive Effects

Increased Sexual Knowledge: Some argue that exposure to a variety of sexual behaviours in pornography can increase sexual knowledge and awareness. Despite this, pornography often depicts extreme, aggressive or risky behaviours.

Solo Sexual Satisfaction: For some individuals, pornography can be a source of sexual pleasure when consumed privately. Porn can also be a good icebreaker when getting intimate with someone new.

Fantasy and Imagination: Pornography may contribute to an individual’s sexual fantasies and imagination, providing inspiration for future scenes.

Potential Negative Effects

Unrealistic Expectations: One obvious concern about pornography is its contribution to unrealistic expectations about sexual performance, body image, and relationships. This can be due to exaggerated reactions, lack of protection or the cosmetic alterations people (particularly women) undergo before filming. Remember that the scenes and bodies you are watching aren’t representative of all sex scenes or bodies.

Decreased Relationship Satisfaction: For some, pornography may lead to dissatisfaction in real-life relationships, particularly if it creates unrealistic expectations. Consider talking to your partner about their pornographic preferences and how the differences may impact your sex life. It is also worth considering the content of the porn you choose to consume. Most pornography focuses on male pleasure, which means it often neglects pleasing the woman or exaggerates her responses for the viewer’s satisfaction. Consider checking out porn with a female lens, created by women for women.

Potential Addiction: In some cases, excessive consumption of pornography can lead to addictive behaviours. This is where individuals may struggle to control their use and may prioritize it over other aspects of life.

Impact on Sexual Functioning: Some evidence suggests that pornography has links with sexual dysfunction. This can be the inability to achieve or maintain an erection or premature ejaculation.

Desensitization: Some studies show that porn consumption might lead to desensitization, where individuals require increasingly extreme or novel stimuli. This may normalise violent or aggressive behaviours which can upset or hurt real-life sexual partners. 

Production: While plenty of pornography platforms promote individual, autonomous content creators, there is the possibility of inadvertently supporting porn that was not made ethically. This may come down to privacy violations, coercion or non-consent or substance use on set. While it won’t affect you directly, supporting these videos can fund further unethical practices. 

Conclusion

It’s important to remember that these effects can vary widely among individuals, and not everyone who consumes pornography will experience these issues. If pornography is having an impact on your sex life or relationships, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. Otherwise, go forth and enjoy the wonders of ethically produced, true-to-life pornography!

Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, is a traditional Japanese art form of rope bondage that has evolved over centuries. While it is now found in pop-culture art and erotica, its history is intertwined with various cultural and artistic influences, making it a rich and complex practice.

Ancient Origins

Shibari traces back to ancient Japan, where its versatility made it popular for various purposes, including restraining prisoners and torture. It gradually evolved into a more artistic and erotic practice over time.

Samurai and Hojo-jutsu

In feudal Japan, Samurai warriors employed rope techniques as a part of their martial training, known as “Hojo-jutsu.” This involved restraining captives using intricate rope patterns. But plenty of elements of Hojo-jutsu remain prominent in modern Shibari.

Eros and the Artistic Influence

The transformation of Shibari from a utilitarian practice to an art form and a means of erotic expression is believed to have occurred during the Edo period (17th to 19th centuries). During this time, Japanese woodblock prints and literature began to depict erotic scenes featuring intricate rope bondage.

Post-War Influence

After World War II, photography and magazines were able to introduce Shibari to a broader audience. Some artists and photographers, like Nobuyoshi Araki and Itoh Seiu, played significant roles in popularizing Shibari as an art form.

Modern Shibari

In the late 20th and early 21st centuries, Shibari has gained international recognition as an art form and a practice within the BDSM community. Across the globe, people appreciate Shibari for its aesthetics, emphasis on trust, and the meditative qualities it can offer both the rigger (the one tying) and the model.

Safety and Education

As BDSM and its related sub-cultures have gained popularity worldwide, there has been a strong emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, classes, and online resources are available for those interested in learning the art of Shibari.

Today, Shibari encompasses a wide range of styles and techniques, from traditional Japanese patterns to more modern and creative approaches. It continues to be a form of artistic and erotic expression, emphasizing consent, trust, and communication between those involved in the practice. Whether you are well-versed in the history of Shibari, or just turned on at the thought of rope restraints, we welcome you to check out our roster to introduce you to the world of restraints and bondage.