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Let’s be real, first dates are already weird. Add the fact that your date is a professional bombshell, and the stakes feel even higher. Suddenly you’re worrying about everything — what to say, where to go, how not to accidentally turn into a puddle of nervous sweat.

Fear not. Whether you’re a seasoned date-booker or it’s your first rodeo, the right plan can turn “awkward and fumbling” into “cool and charming.” Here’s your ultimate cheat sheet of first date ideas that’ll actually be fun, for both of you.

Coffee Date (AKA “The Warm-Up Round”)

A coffee shop is the ultimate first date pre-game. Low-commitment, high-potential. You get caffeine, casual conversation, and an easy exit if it’s not vibing. Plus, you can always say, “Let’s grab another somewhere else” if things are going well.

Pro Tip:
Pick a café that’s actually good, no one’s feeling romantic under fluorescent lights, sipping burnt drip coffee. Bonus points for choosing somewhere with good pastries. Flirting over croissants? It’s practically French.

Pretend you’re cultured! (Or, you know, actually be cultured — either way works.) Wandering through art gives you endless conversation starters: “Do you get this painting?” “Could I pull off that ancient Roman look?” Instant icebreakers.

Pro Tip:
Steer clear of the weird modern art section unless you’re both secretly 12-year-olds who can giggle at giant abstract sculptures named “Self-Reflection in Blue.” (Actually… maybe that’s a vibe.)

Drinks at a Cool, Low-Key Bar (Not a Boozy Apocalypse)

You want a lounge, not a sweaty nightclub. Think velvet couches, soft lighting, and cocktail names that are slightly ridiculous. (“I’ll have the Flirtini with a side of regrettable life choices, thanks.”)

Pro Tip:
Have a two-drink limit in mind. You want flirty tipsy, not “confessing your childhood trauma” tipsy.

Sunset Walk or a Chill Park Picnic (Wholesome AF)

Walking side-by-side is way less intense than sitting across from each other in some intense eye-lock standoff. Plus, a little nature makes everyone 40% more charming. (Scientific fact I just made up.)

Pro Tip:
Bring something to share: a thermos of coffee, a couple of cheeky cupcakes, or even a mini speaker for chill background music. Instant “aww” points.

Play Games (Mini-Golf, Bowling, Arcade — Channel Your Inner Kid)

When in doubt, do something silly. Mini-golf? Bowling? Retro arcade games? They’re perfect for cutting through the nerves because you’re focusing more on playing than impressing.

Pro Tip:
Let them win just enough. Competitive banter = flirting gold!

Bonus First Date Ideas (Rapid Fire Round):

  • Pizza Crawl: Best slices in town. Taste test. Full stomachs = full hearts.
  • Bookstore Date: Buy each other a random book based only on the cover. Hilarious (and you look smart).
  • Cooking Class: Nothing bonds people faster than collectively setting a crème brûlée on fire.
  • Comedy Show: If you can’t laugh together, what’s the point?

Final Tips for Ultimate Non-Awkwardness:

  • Don’t Treat It Like a Transaction: Even though it’s a booking, you’re still two humans hanging out. Chill, laugh, connect (just not on too deep a level)
  • Avoid the “So What’s Your Craziest Client Story” Trap: She’s heard it a thousand times. Trust me.
  • Be Normal: (Easier said than done, but seriously. Be. Normal.)
  • Relax: Escorts are pros, not just at sex, but at making people feel good and comfortable. You’re in good hands. Literally and metaphorically.

Now go forth and be charming, you absolute legend. 😎

The wonders of technology have made finding and booking escort services easier than ever, but not without their downsides! Here are a few common typos, autocorrections and misspellings that make me chuckle.

Hey Abby

This one has nothing to do with an escort named Abby! Every so often ‘Hey baby’ turns into an awkward explanation of ‘Yeah, I actually didn’t mean to call you Abby.’ The less entertaining version of this is “abbe” instead of “babe.”

Escorts & Baby

Sometimes the ad platforms suffer from typos, like “escorts and baby” or “akkoka” instead of their proper names. It’s easy enough to figure out what you meant but I still think “locanot” sounds like a magic spell.

Sexcorts & Escrow

Even though it’s one of the most popular terms in this industry, ‘escort’ is far from immune! Whether it’s part of a text message, ad or in a search query, ‘escort’ sees its fair share of errors. “Excort” sounds like a description of service providers who have left the industry whereas “Sexcorts” gets right to the point! “Escrow” always makes me chuckle since it’s such a formal finance term.

What The Duck?

This list would be incomplete without mentioning the champion of all autocorrection fails; duck. “Duck” steals the show from both ‘fuck’ like in “I want to duck” and ‘dick’ when giving instructions like “suck my duck,” making it a remarkably versatile typo.

Autocorrections and typos are part of essentially all digital communication so it’s no surprise to find those mistakes in the adult industry. We keep in touch with so many people in this line of work so things would get pretty boring if we couldn’t have a giggle at the hiccups. We will leave all talk of escrow to the finance sector, but if you’re interested in some gorgeous escorts, you can check them out here!

Photographs are one of the biggest parts of advertising in the sex industry. From the obvious appeal to clients to the more technological advantages, having a good selection of photos is crucial in effective advertising.

The Obvious

The most obvious reason why photographs are so valuable is that clients want to know what they are getting! While written descriptions and stats provide a good baseline, photographs are the easiest way to accurately depict your figure and style and even capture some of your personality. Choose photos that show off your best physical features; like great tits in a lacy bralette or stilettos to show off your legs. You can also use photos to show off what you offer; if intimate GFE’s are your thing, then maybe a sun dress and a rose can set the mood but if your specialty is BDSM, pose with some toys to remind clients what’s on offer.

Advertising Platforms

When uploading photos to various platforms, many have a minimum number of photos required for publication. Having a variety means your profile can appear on as many platforms as possible, and therefore reach more potential clients! Some platforms also prefer to display ads with more photos first, so even if you look stunning in your one photo, your ad might be the last one displayed. 

Online Performance

When it comes to digital performance metrics like SEO or clickthrough rates, there are two basic principles to help give your ads a boost; regular content and unique content. This means that copy-and-paste is not the best way to go. Try to mix up your content, with both text and images. If you can, have a few different blurbs about yourself written and a gallery of photos in a variety of formats/sizes to make sure you can maximise your online advertising performance.

Bonus

The technical know-how is great and all, but for most people there is an unexpected confidence boost that comes with new photos too! That goes for all-out professional shoots and #feltcute selfies alike. There’s nothing wrong with taking a moment to appreciate yourself!

It may seem obvious, but a selection of quality photos can make a huge difference in your advertising. From helping appear first in the gallery to showcasing what it is you do best, photos are a great investment to get started or give your existing profile a boost! 

Happy snapping!

Sure, many brothels have a fancy VIP or Deluxe suite and some might even have a Dungeon for getting kinky, but how many brothels do you know that have a Gamers’ Lounge?

It’s light-hearted and quirky but don’t be mistaken, it’s been the preferred destination for many a booking. Here are some of the top reasons why!

Turn On The Console Before Getting Turned On

Especially for first-time clients, the nerves of making a booking can get the better of you! Video games are a great icebreaker; they give you something to do while you get to know each other. Many clients are looking for company more than actual sex, so there’s no shame in enjoying a laugh before getting frisky! 

X-Rated Twists To Classic Games

Just like turning poker into a barely-clothed event, there are plenty of ways to spice up classic console games. Maybe it’s stripping a piece of clothing each time you lose, or the winner gets to decide what position is up next. Maybe you can cash in-game points for real-world pleasures. 

Fantasy Fulfillment

There is something so hot about a gorgeous babe lying on the bed with a controller in her hands. The temptation to interrupt her concentration with another kind of joystick is just too strong. Let us make that dream a reality; you can enjoy watching her play games while you can play with her. 

On the other hand, maybe you can challenge yourself to keep levelling up while she tries to distract you in increasingly naughty ways. Let the sexual tension build until you finally give in and give her your full attention.

There are countless reasons you might be looking for company so if you are interested in something a little more fun, maybe the Gamers’ Lounge is for you! Before diving into round one, establish the costs and ground rules so you can enjoy round after round of gaming and bedroom pleasure! Check out the babes working at Harlots Canberra here.

Girl Friend Experiences are known for their cozy and intimate vibe but that’s no excuse to let your presentation standards drop. Having a few quality products on hand can make getting ready for a romantic dinner date or movie night a breeze. 

Kiss Me Lipstick

If kissing is in your GFE repertoire, then choosing a smudge-proof lipstick is probably a wise idea. This is especially true if you are going to his place; leaving kiss marks on a napkin is a cute memento but on his pillow cases is just inconvenient. You could also keep things simple with a lip gloss.

Shower Scenes & Pillowtalk

Some people find that a full face makes them feel confident & sexy, others find it difficult to maintain. Regardless of what you prefer, if your GFE features lots of cuddling, then it’s a good idea to find products that wont transfer to his clothes or linen. If you offer showering together, look into water-proof products or setting sprays. Its also a good idea to have your main products in a travel case for quick touch-ups.

Colour Palette & Style

Girl Friend Experiences are often softer, more romantic and intimate, so your make-up choice might reflect that too. You could swap your statement black wings for a softer brown eyeliner with warm eyeshadow. If you’re a glam fan, you could trade your chunky glitter cut-crease for a softer half cut-crease with a shimmery eyeshadow. However, your unique style is probably what caught your client’s attention so don’t feel the need to dress it down! If your signature look is 2000s punk-scene eyeliner, then don’t let the romance of a GFE change it!

When deciding what products to include in your go-bag, you should choose things that make you feel confident and sexy. Services that include lots of face contact might require an extra strength setting spray or some additional touch-ups throughout your shift.

Sometimes the decision to seek out some adult company is an impulsive, heat-of-the-moment desire, but for some people that decision is part of a well-thought-out schedule. Here are a few points to consider next time you’re thinking about finding a partner-in-fantasy.

Your Schedule

For some people, the 9-5 office job means that all their adult entertainment has to happen out of hours, but for others, a quick fling is the perfect lunchtime stress relief! We have done plenty of outcalls to people making the most of their ‘working from home’ arrangements too! If you have other responsibilities, then maybe sticking to weekends or late nights is the most convenient.

Escort Availability

Some independent escorts are available 24/7 provided you give enough notice and/or pay a deposit, but others may work within quite rigid hours. If you are looking for a specific private escort, then you will have to consider their schedule as well. The more flexible option would be establishments that work with local and touring escorts during their opening hours to give you a selection of service providers to choose from. Some establishments are open 24/7 with a varying number of escorts on shifts at any given time. At Harlots, we believe that providing quality service means making sure the escorts we work with have enough time to rest and rejuvenate between shifts. So while we aren’t open 24/7, you know that when our doors open we are ready and able to go above and beyond when it comes to making your dreams come true. 

Specific Requests

This is the niche section that most people don’t have to consider but if you do have very specific requests for your service provider, it might be worth a read! For things that are exceptionally physically demanding (like intense BDSM scenes), require preparation (like golden-, brown, or roman showers) or require significant cleaning (like either of the aforementioned examples), then giving your service provider a heads-up would be greatly appreciated. There may be a preferred time, day or location for those bookings.

Whether you decide to start your day with a bang or finish your night with one, Harlots are happy to be part of your next adult adventure. We appreciate your busy schedule and can introduce you to service providers who are passionate about passion too! Let us know if you have any specific requests that might impact your booking time, and let us make your dream come true!

A great set of photos can work wonders for your advertising. They capture the attention, spark the imagination and create craving in prospective clients. With nearly infinite examples of erotic photography online, knowing where to start can seem overwhelming. Here are a few key tips that will help you get started.

Inspiration

If you don’t even know how to pose, consider checking out the internet for inspiration. Not every pose will work for everyone; camera angle, lighting, body size/shape, mobility and props might force you to make adjustments to what you find online. Search terms like ‘boudoir photography’ are a good starting point. Pick a few favourites and use them as references for your own.

Props & Accessories

While the classic lingerie-and-heels outfit is a must-have for your gallery, there are plenty of ways you can add a little bit of spice to your photos without going over budget. A plain bed sheet can be used to cover up for some classy modesty in reclining poses. You can also drape it around you while you’re standing. If you offer kink & fetish services, consider posing with some of the toys. A standard dress tie can be a novel way to add some colour to an open-shirt shot or a creative alternative to cuffs or blindfolds for a ‘naughty secretary’ look. Think about what makes you or your service stand out!

The Background

You should be the centre of attention in these photos so make an effort to remove distractions from the background. Tidy up anything that is in the shot; knickknacks, pets, shoes and laundry are frequent photobombers that can take away from your photo. While mirror selfies have a certain casual fun to them, make sure your reflections don’t show more than you bargained for (and wipe down your mirror before shooting). 

Get creative and remember to have fun! It’s okay to take a hundred photos and only keep a handful of the quality ones. Happy snapping!

Maybe you prefer one-on-one pleasure or you can’t imagine sharing your significant other with someone else in the bedroom. However, other couples swear by the mutual satisfaction and bonding experience of adding a third to the bedroom. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might decide to book an escort. Here are just a few examples:

Sexual Bucket List

A threesome is a frequent appearance on sexual bucket lists, and a couple inviting another person to join is no exception. The intimacy of being with your significant other and some gorgeous stranger at the same time is the perfect recipe for a night of sinful dreams come true. 

Anniversary Gifts

Quite often, threesomes with couples are saved for special occasions. Some choose to celebrate the big milestones by inviting another woman in to please them both. Other couples decide to keep things new and exciting with a variety of companions to keep them on their toes.

For His Pleasure

It’s no secret that a lot of men find girl-on-girl action super hot. So, for his birthday, why not invite over another woman and put on a live show for him? It’ll drive him crazy.

For Her Pleasure

Plenty of women in hetero relationships decide to invite another woman into the bedroom for their own pleasure more than their partners. Despite years of dating men, couples bookings offer the chance to explore those secret girl-on-girl fantasies.

There are plenty of couples who seek professional company for a huge range of reasons. It may be a once-off to say you’ve done it or a semi-regular way to keep things exciting at home. For the ladies, couples bookings can provide the chance to explore your sexual desires with the approval (and encouragement) of your partner. Regardless of why you are booking, you can browse open-minded ladies who are passionate about making incredible memories with couples here.

Presentation is a huge part of this industry so having a great outfit when introducing yourself can be a game changer! While the guidelines are different for outcalls or social dates, here are a few things to consider when meeting clients in an establishment.

House Rules

If you have only worked with one establishment, the difference between their rules and other places may surprise you! Some brothels have strict rules on presentation like ‘no flat shoes,’ or ‘lingerie only.’ Harlots typically sits at the more flexible end of the spectrum but if you are unfamiliar with the house rules, it’s always a good idea to ask!

Something That Suits You

While a neon pink bodysuit may look absolutely gorgeous on my girlfriend, the colour clashes with my complexion and I sort of end up looking like a gumball. Your complexion, hair colour, height and body shape will likely make some outfits less than ideal for you specifically. However, there will also be looks that only you can pull off! You should also consider the kind of outfit that suits your service the most; BDSM & Dominatrices will look the part in latex and leather while the cute GFE sweethearts will probably suit mini skirts and floral bralettes.

Practical Considerations

Now that you have picked out some outfits that comply with the house rules and suit you perfectly, there are just a handful of things to think about before calling it a day.

  1. Can you get changed into and out of this quickly? Lace-ups and latex can look stunning but unless they have a sneaky zipper they may be too finicky and time-consuming to be practical.
  2. Is it easy to wash? Especially if you are planning on travelling while you work, access to a dry cleaner may not be possible so having low-maintenance outfits can be handy.
  3. Do you feel sexy in it? The confidence boost a great outfit gives you can be more important than the outfit itself! You should feel confident and sexy in whatever you choose to wear.

Whether you choose to wear lingerie, mini skirts or fetishwear, there is something for everyone! Take some time to explore the options available to you and keep in mind the practicality of working in these outfits. With a little trial and error (and maybe a girlfriend to bounce ideas off) you can find an assortment of outfits that make you look and feel incredible!

Sometimes the perfect picture just happens, but when you are trying to get a decent shot, posing seems awkward and uncomfortable. Here are a few pointers to help you polish up your photography game.

Hands

Where your hands are in a photo can be the difference between ‘effortlessly beautiful’ and ‘awkward robot-dance.’ Give your hands something natural to do. They won’t all work for all poses but here are some ideas:

  • Playing with/adjusting lingerie, socks, long sleeves
  • Scrunched in the bedsheets 
  • Twirling/fixing your hair
  • Run your finger tips over your body
  • Hold a toy or prop
  • Holding your dress/skirt

Feet

Just like hands, feet can make an image feel awkward or clumsy. The single biggest tip I can give you is to point your toes like a ballerina. Having your foot flexed (the opposite of pointed) disrupts the line of your leg and doesn’t look as well-composed. If you are struggling with what to do with your legs and feet, here are some ideas:

  • A leg stepped up onto the edge of a bed, chair or bathtub (or someone’s back if you’re a domme)
  • Legs up out of a bathtub
  • One foot forward with a long, slitted skirt
  • One or both legs in the air while you’re on the bed
  • Crossed (but with your knees straighter than normal) in a chair or on a desk

Hips & Back

There are very few scenarios in which arching your back is a bad idea. Arching your back (a.k.a. sticking your butt out or tilting your hips/pelvis downward) helps create smooth lines from your head down to your hips and down your legs. It is particularly effective for adding shape and curve in positions like doggy or any photo angled from behind. For more front-on angles, pushing your hips to the side (usually accompanied by the ‘lower’ side foot taking a small step forward) can emphasise the shape of your figure.

There are plenty of detailed guides on posing for photos, including for boudoir/erotic photography specifically. You can also take inspiration from existing profiles. If I had to pick my top three tips to give adult industry advertisers, it would be these: keep your hands busy, toes pointed, and back arched.

Happy snapping!

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