Today I’m tackling a tough topic: erectile dysfunction. ED can be hard (pun intended) to talk about; it’s a deeply personal issue and can feel very embarrassing. But let me ease your worries, while not normal ED is surprisingly common, and there are heaps of methods to help treat it.

What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile Dysfunction, aka ED or impotence, is the inability to get or keep an erection. It can affect up to 50% of men aged 40 to 70. Now the occasional failure to get an erection is normal and often related to alcohol, anxiety, tiredness or a combination of all three. However, if you are having ongoing issues, then that’s not normal, and you need to have a chat with your doctor. 

Causes Of Erectile Dysfunction

There are lots of different factors that can cause ED. Anxiety or depression used to be considered the main cause, but is in fact only the main cause in 1 of 10 cases. Most cases of ED are physical or anatomical, with ED being a symptom of another problem. Some examples of main causes are illnesses such as diabetes, MS, or high blood pressure. It can also be a side effect of surgery, like a radiation treatment or a prostatectomy, or a side effect of medications. Another leading cause is your lifestyle, like smoking, alcohol and obesity. So what are some treatments for ED?

Counselling & Therapy

While only the main cause in 1 of 10 cases, anxiety, depression and stress can seriously impact your ability to maintain an erection. Counselling and therapy can be a great way to combat these issues and may also help with your ED. 

Vacuum Erection Devices

Vacuum erection devices or penis pumps are a drug-free way of treating ED. They help by increasing the blood flow to the penis and can help create an erection that works well enough for penetration. However, they tend not to be as effective as medications.

Medications

While medications can be the cause of ED, some medications can also be the treatment. If medication is the cause, you can discuss changing your prescription with your doctor. However, there are a few prescription medications that can help improve the blood flow to the penis, famously the little blue pill. These medications won’t cause erections, but will help boost any erections you get. However, these medications can have their own side effects like facial flushing, headaches and sometimes muscle pain and reflux. There are also now versions of this medication that can be compounded into lozenges, which tend to be more effective. As always with medications, have a discussion with your doctor about what’s right for you.

Injections

For those men who can’t take oral medications, there are injections available. They can be a bit daunting as you inject them straight into the penis, but the needle is very small and most users find it surprisingly painless, a 1.1/10 on the pain scale. This injection takes about 5 minutes to kick in, forces an erection even if you aren’t aroused, and you’ll be hard for about 45 minutes. This medication is serious stuff, so you definitely need medical guidance before use.

I hope this helps you tackle ED and have those tough conversations with your doctor. For more information on erectile dysfunction, you can read more here. Or if you’d like to try out some of these techniques, you can see all the gorgeous escorts we have available here!

Do you have an adventurous spirit and a love for all things freaky and kinky? This week, I will be pairing up some monstrous sex toys with matching monster romances. 

Moon Blooded Breeding Clinic By CM Nascosta

For those just dipping their toes into monster romances and toys, I would recommend Moon Blooded Breeding Clinic by CM Nascosta. You’ll follow Moriah as she uses a breeding clinic to help get pregnant after her recent divorce. The hot twist? This clinic uses werewolves and believes in insemination the old-fashioned way. This werewolf romance is great for beginners, as the main male love interest is mostly human with some fun enhancements downstairs. You can pair this read with any werewolf-themed dildos or dildos with knots. 

Bull Moon Rising By Ruby Dixon

Next up, we have Bull Moon Rising by Ruby Dixon. This smutty romance is set in a fantasy world where digging for magical artifacts is a dangerous yet sought-after profession. Our main character, Aspeth, strikes a bargain with hulking minotaur Hawk. He’ll be her husband and chaperone, allowing her to become an apprentice if she helps him through his rut. If you have a size kink and love stubborn muscular men and buxom women, this is the series for you. For the full experience, I would recommend any large or bull-themed dildos.

Stalked By The Kraken By Lillian Lark

Into tentacle dildos? Then Stalked By The Kraken by Lillian Lark is the novel for you! Rose is a matchmaking witch who has lost her mojo and is in desperate need of raw magic. Enter a mysterious man who offers to supply that sensual magic, but only if she joins him. This book is fun, flirty and will have you diving into the deep end of monster romances in no time. Which makes it the perfect read for tentacle lovers, voyeurs and exhibitionists.

The Weaver By Tiffany Roberts

Watch out if you’re an arachnophobe, this recommendation is full of spiders… but in a hot way. The Weaver by Tiffany Roberts is set on a distant planet full of giant spider people, where a team of human colonists have crash-landed and must now try to survive on a hostile planet. So, what’s a girl like Ahmya supposed to do when one of these strangely hunky spidermen is ready to attend to her every need? This is definitely a book for the more advanced monster romance readers, but it is worth it. Add on some ovipositor sex toys, and you are in for a night of wild fun.

You can find all the books mentioned above on Booktopia or Amazon, and all the fun monstrous dildos at online retailers like Nothosaur or Bad Dragon. Feeling hot and horny after one of my recommendations or looking to try out a new purchase? You can see the stunning escorts available this week here. 

Worried you are coming too early? Then Harlots is here to help with some useful tips, tricks and resources.

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is when you can’t control when you ejaculate, and come before you are ready. Things like chemical imbalances in the brain, overstimulation, and performance anxiety can cause premature ejaculation. 

So how do you fix it? The first step is seeking help from a medical practitioner, like your general practitioner. If you don’t have a GP or aren’t comfortable discussing this with your doctor, I would recommend checking out Mens Health Downunder. They work all around Australia, helping men with sensitive health problems.

Below you will find some examples of the main techniques or options to help with premature ejaculation.

Breathing Techniques

The number one piece of advice is don’t hold your breath. This will just make your body tense and more reactive. Instead, try slow controlled breathing and slow stimulation to avoid overstimulating yourself. You could even try some meditation exercises to help with any performance or general anxieties. 

Numbing Creams

You would need to speak with a professional, but another helpful technique is using numbing sprays or creams. When applied in advance, they can help prolong ejaculation by reducing sensation. Obviously, the big issue with this is the reduced sensation and how that can also reduce your enjoyment. There are lots of numbing creams and sprays available on the market, so definitely talk to your doctor before purchasing any to ensure it’s safe to use and the right option for you.

Medication

Lastly, there is prescription medication. While there isn’t anything on the market that directly helps with premature ejaculation, there are a few medications, like some antidepressants, that have the classic side effect of prolonging ejaculation, and some of them are even short-acting acting so you only need to take them as needed. However, as these are prescription medications, you will need to discuss with your doctor what is right for you. 

I hope that after reading this, you’ve found some useful advice and feel confident in asking your GP for help if you need it. If you would like more information on premature ejaculation, you can read more here. Or if you’d like to try out some of these techniques, you can see all the gorgeous escorts we have available here!