Month: August 2024

While most of us agree that what happens in incognito tabs should never be spoken of again, there are some interesting statistics about the adult content we choose to watch when the lights go down. From trending search terms to patterns in when people were choosing to spend some alone time, it’s fascinating to see people’s behaviours displayed in terms of online activity.

Mouth-watering MILFs

According to Pornhubs 2023 Year In Review, we are craving a little bit of Stacey’s Mom, with MILF and Mature categories jumping into popularity. Globally, “MILF” held second place, ahead of “lesbian” but behind “hentai.” Other honourable mentions for having aged like fine wine include DILF, GILF and Daddy.

Big & Beautiful

Bigger may not be better but it was certainly more popular last year! Not only were terms like “big” and “huge” searched for more frequently, but the categories “Big Ass” and “Big Dick” saw an average watch time of more than 14 mins each, which is four minutes longer than the average amount of time spent on the site!

iHot

The single greatest increase was “android” and usually coupled with “cosplay,” “robot” and “roleplay.” It saw a 1689% increase in search frequency which was just above the 1541% increase for “NPC.”

International Intimacy

On a global level, America is the leading consumer of adult content online with Australia coming in 13th. The average time spent on the site grew to 10 minutes and 9 seconds. Australia, however, comes in below that average at 9 minutes and 31 seconds. Surprisingly, the day of the week that saw the most action was Monday, and the least was Saturday. Not only were women spending an average of 9 seconds longer online, but 1% more of the total viewers this year were women, making up 36% of all visitors. Australian men still hold the majority share; of total Aussie viewers, 31% were female and 69% male (nice).

Lots of things contribute to trends in adult content consumption and it’s interesting to think about how they vary between countries. Bedroom preferences are something uniquely personal but it’s also a universal part of sexuality. Even though we keep our online activity private, we have a lot more in common than we realise!

While long-term, exclusive relationships can meet our emotional needs, they come with their own costs. Sometimes it’s more practical to skip the romance and agree upon a strictly physical arrangement. Friends With Benefits, F-buddies and No-Strings-Attached, whatever the title, here’s how to keep it from falling apart.

Kicking off a new situation-ship can be a lot of fun, but sooner or later you will have to have an honest discussion about what you are both seeking from it. I opt for having that discussion SOONER. Lay out the ground rules; every dynamic will be different but they usually have a few things in common.

We Are Not Exclusive

There is nothing stopping you from seeing others and the same goes for me. In most cases, I don’t care or want to know about them and I probably won’t want to talk about my other hook ups. If you get serious about someone else, just let me know the deal is off. No hard feelings when the arrangement changes or ends!

When & Where

Depending on the circumstances, we might make some rules about when and where we get dirty. For example, we can hang out with a mutual friend together but we won’t be catching up with each other unless it’s to get freaky. Nothing even resembling a date. You can have those boundaries too! Maybe your place is off-limits because it means meeting your cat, and hey, that’s just way too personal for a no-strings-attached.

This Is Not A Movie

It’s a classic gag; two people become friends with benefits and before long, one of them catches feelings. These rules exist to stop that from happening so if you start getting butterflies, take a step back before you find yourself head over heels. This arrangement falls apart if you forget the basic premises; no strings attached!

Don’t Be Weird About It

For whatever reason, this will end and chances are we’ll still be in the same social circles. Don’t overthink things or make them messy. If you have things you want to talk about, we can talk! We are still friends, with or without the benefits. 

Good sex can be hard to come by, and you don’t have to date exclusively to make the most of a good roll in the sheets! Be honest with yourself and your F-buddy, and you might just be able to pull off a no-strings-attached deal.

One of my first real dates was with a girl who gave me butterflies. What caught my attention first wasn’t her oh-so-pretty face (though I’ll never forget that cheeky smirk), it was the brightly coloured pants that only she could pull off so well. The softly ribbed texture of corduroy still sends shivers down my spine, but that’s neither here nor there. We went to different schools and were a year or two apart in age but had crossed paths and hit it off. She was so unashamedly herself and I was utterly smitten.

I was young and, although I never would have admitted it then, naive. She had done things I had never even heard of and it made my heart race. I learnt a great deal on our dates. She taught me about sub-drop and aftercare, and what to look out for when seeking a dom/domme. We talked about impact play and sensitivity and bruises. It was sitting in a park that I first learnt about squirting, and I blushed like never before when she suggested a more hands-on approach.

While I can thank her for so my introduction to the kink and BDSM scene, she taught me a far more valuable lesson too. The dates she took me on set the standard so high for all future dates. She treated me like a princess and I had the time of my life doing practically nothing. I learnt how I should be treated and reminded that a date wasn’t an agreement to hook up at the end. Neither of us was looking for something serious but I never felt like a cheap fling to her either. To this day, I have held all of my dates to the standards she set. I am so grateful for her kindess.

Wherever she is now, I send my appreciation and admiration. I hope she is having fun and still rocking those stunning corduroy pants.