Putting on a good performance in the bedroom can be daunting, and some rather unrealistic expectations can get in the way of a good time. While you shouldn’t feel pressured to be some kind of sex god, there’s no harm in taking a few tips if you feel like improving!
The Basics
Despite how common the following tips may be, there are a few basics that people always seem to forget. Firstly, no matter how awkward you might feel, asking for consent is always a turn-on. In some power dynamics or roleplay scenes, asking for permission comes quite naturally since it is paired with a title like Sir or Miss. When in more vanilla atmospheres, a simple gesture and “May I?” can work wonders.
Secondly, safe sex is good sex, so take the initiative and reach for the condoms first! It’s a relief to know that your partner is on the same page about protection. The same goes for dental dams which are used during rimming or when going down on a lady.
Thirdly, slow things down. This applies to the lead-up and during intercourse. Foreplay, and even just sharing an intimate embrace beforehand, can make the experience so much more memorable. Taking things slower can help build up pleasure for everyone involved before the finale.
With the basics out of the way, let’s get into the nitty-gritty!
Pussy Play & Fingering
Fingering is frequently remembered as a vital part of adolescent exploration, but it doesn’t have to be left in our teenage years. Mutual masturbation is a great addition to your foreplay repertoire. As with many things, less is often more in fingering, both literally and in the movements used. It’s easier to build up in intensity than it is to apologise for causing discomfort. Watching your partner please themselves and then copying that is one of the best ways to make sure they get what they like and how they like it.
Dinner At The Y
Whether you call it ‘going down,’ ‘eating out’ or any number of other nicknames, cunnilingus is one of the most popular methods of helping female partners reach the big O. There are millions of methods available, from writing the alphabet, spelling your name to tracing shapes with your tongue. However, no single strategy will work for everyone! It’s great if you have a go-to that usually works, but be willing to listen and adapt if it doesn’t work for this partner. If you don’t know where to start, ask your partner what they like and try to follow their instructions. Being willing and able to learn and customise your technique for each partner is a great skill.
Exploring Their Body
The term ‘erogenous zone’ is among the least sexy phrases in this article, but its meaning is important. Erogenous zones are places on the body that are sensitive to touch and may be stimulated to help set the mood. For example, one partner may get shivers down their spine when their earlobe is gently nibbled, while another gets goosebumps during foot rubs. Little things like that can take intimacy to a whole new level.
If you enjoy learning how to make someone gasp and moan, then I hope this article helps you achieve that. If you would rather all of the focus be on your own pleasure, then Harlots has an abundance of stunning babes determined to make you feel like a king. We all appreciate the value of absolute pleasure and going above and beyond to make your fantasies a reality brings us the utmost pleasure.
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